Updated: Sep 8
I once started a little mini-blog. It was called Rant 'n Rave.
In it I 'allowed' myself to be as cynical as I could be. To have a total rant at the world. (Oh, and yes, every now and again I would rave about something too. But - if I'm honest - not very often.)
It never went anywhere.
I never advertised it.
No one read it.
And that was fine.
I didn't really do it for that reason.
It was my little message to the universe. And that was OK.
You see, I used to be the Queen of Cynicism. I PRIDED myself on being cynical - or, what I thought of as, witty and cutting.
But what it really was was that I was unhappy. Unhappy and resentful.
Being cynical was just my way of expressing that.
Until I realised what it was. And decided to change my attitude, before changing my entire career and life.
But old habits die hard.
And on occasion I would write my total RANT against whatever was irritating me that day.
From bras to marriage. From the dentist to the government. Nothing was safe. (Oh, and if you are interested in one that DID manage to stay published you may want to read my blog If I was queen for one year which I wrote during lockdown).
Now this year I wrote a post about how disillusioned I was with International Women's Day.
How fed up I was with companies patting themselves on the back - only to be 'found out' by the bot that disclosed their gender pay gap under their post.
How confused I was with the theme (Embrace Equity? Seriously? Hug equity, because that's the closest you'll get? Or something?)
That I gave up on International Women's Day when I realised pancakes have their very own day too (oh, and there's a 'Speak like a pirate' day too! Seriously?)
I didn't publish it.
Because I don't WANT to give up.
I don't want to TELL you that I am giving up either.
In fact, in all honesty, when I started looking at my rant I realised.
What I WANT is for all to realise it's NOT US. That it's the SYSTEM that is wrong.
WE don't have to be fixed, or changed, or do something against our values and beliefs. Only to 'fit in' with a system that's clearly not working. For any of us. Men OR women.
Which means that we've got to break the current system and build a better one. In which we can all be valued for our contribution.
Not for one day. But every day. Until it's done.
There! (And now I've written it anyway. Even though I said I wouldn't.)
Anyway, all I want to say is that - sometimes - it's good to rant against the things that don't feel right.
Because it makes it utterly clear what is IMPORTANT to you.
It makes it clear what you DON'T want. Leading you to getting clear(er) on what you DO want.
So that - once you've seen it - your only choice is to make change happen.
And THAT, my friends, can only be a good thing.
P.S. My Rant 'n Rave blogs don't exist anymore. Other than on my hard drive. However I DO write regular blogs (did you know?). Which you can find right here: BLOGS. With helpful content for YOUR career change. Alongside the (very) occasional rant.
P.S.S. Do you want to find out what you WANT in your career? Why not book yourself on an Introduction Call and we'll talk about exactly that.
Tineke Tammes is an ICF credentialed Career Coach, who supports professional women in making successful transitions to careers of Freedom, Flexibility and Fulfilment! Besides that she is also a lifelong feminist, part-time portrait artist, never-only-read-one-book-at-any-time reader, and obsessive doodler.
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